About My Love & Hate Relationship With Public Speaking

About My Love & Hate Relationship With Public Speaking

You know I often talk about the struggles with public speaking and how to tame the fears that are getting in your way.

It is really important for me to share a bit of my story with you.

I want to let you know how I overcame my fears and how I enjoy speaking live now.

And if I can do that as a non-native speaker … Lady, you can do it too 🙂

 

Watch the video … Or, if you prefer you can read the transcript below.

 

 

 

Today I share MY LOVE & HATE RELATIONSHIP WITH PUBLIC SPEAKING

I think you know I’m a speaking without fear coach and I help people, especially women, sensitive spirits to tame their facebook live fears and the fears of public speaking

And today I have to admit I have a love and hate relationship with public speaking. So nowadays I’m no longer afraid of speaking publicly and showing up on facebook live.

Yes, I’m used to it. But I still feel kind of a nervous feeling when I hit the live button, but it’s not this nerve-racking, thrilling ..and sweaty hands feeling .. and my heart is bursting feeling …

it’s more like a kind of excitement … what will I say, how the live talk go and who will watch it. It’s more of an excitement.

Now that wasn’t always the case, 20 years ago speaking publicly really scared the hell out of me.

I even used GREEN CONCEALER to cover my red cheeks.

It worked perfectly well, but the fear didn’t go away.

So I was looking for help. And I finally, found a life coach and I figured out that within a few months I was able to speak freely and I was able to speak fearlessly.

I was so amazed by the results that I decided to become a life coach myself and to help women to show up and to tame their fears … especially the fears of public speaking and nowadays the fears of showing up on facebook live …

facebook live is kind of different, it triggers other things than public speaking but it still triggers fears …

and I’m really happy nowadays that I can help women to tame those fears, to speak fearlessly and … especially to help them speak from the heart.

That’s what I’m passionate about.

 

Until next time… Remember the world needs your voice ♥

 

 

Do you want my help?

My 8-week 1:1 Coaching Program is designed to help you show up confidently on Facebook Live and sell in a way that feels good. LEARN MORE…

9 Ways To Bore The Boots Off Your Facebook Live Listeners [Part 2]

9 Ways To Bore The Boots Off Your Facebook Live Listeners [Part 2]

If you haven’t read part 1 yet … head over here

 

Now, let’s continue.

5. You speak longer than 5 mins off topic to increase the tension

Ever heard this advice?

To build up tension in a speech, talk about what you will tell them before you tell them.

 

However there are slight differences between giving a live speech in front of an audience or speaking live on FB.

People on social media are crazy impatient. They’re not willing to let someone waste their valuable time. They want the info NOW!

 

So, give them what they want. Choose two or three sentences to point out what they’ll learn today AND fire away with the good stuff.

 

6. You talk about your program and what you’re selling from the first second on

You’re passionate about your program. You worked extremely hard to make it happen and you want everyone to join.

We get it.

Your program is way too good to not be mentioned as soon as possible.

Well, that’s one perspective.

 

Let’s try another one!

As you probably don’t want to sound salesy or slimey … Ask yourself: What do my viewers truly want?

 

Ponder this question.

Once you found the answers, start your FB live with your audience in mind and never bore them again.

 

7. Your content isn’t what the subject title stated 

(Maybe that’s why so many hosts don’t have a subject title? Read about that in part 1)

Be very clear about your message.

People are showing up because they are attrachted by the subject title. They guess there’s something in it for them.

 

  • Stick to your title message
  • Don’t ramble so they want to stop watching
  • Give them what they expect

 

Be prepapred, so you don’t ramble, struggle or bore them.

Here’s the key: Keep your title and your content in aligment.

 

8. You just pop-in

Usually those FB talks start with “I just wanna pop in to tell you that I…” and then they speak for a long  time about … what?

People are divided if this is a good tactic to attract your dream clients.

 

Some viewers like those informal updates ONLY when they are kept short. Others tune out.

 

Those viewers prefer to see a host that is well prepared, focused and has a strategy to lead them through a topic. Maybe these are your dream clients.

 

9. You beg for likes, comments and shares from the beginning on and do it over and over again.

Please like me.

Show me your love. Please. Please.

How does this sound? Confident or weak?

 

However doing that seems to be popular these days. But just because many people are doing it, doesn’t mean it’s a well thought out strategy. It’s a boring strategy.

Why? Because …

 

  • People already know that like buttons exist.
  • People will comment when they have something to say.
  • People will share if they think it was valuable.

 

Until next time… Remember the world needs your voice ♥

 

Do you want my help?

My 8-week 1:1 Coaching Program is designed to help you show up confidently on Facebook Live and sell in a way that feels good. LEARN MORE…

9 Ways To Bore The Boots Off Your Facebook Live Viewers [Part 1]

9 Ways To Bore The Boots Off Your Facebook Live Viewers [Part 1]

Do you know the aim of your Facebook live?

It’s simple. Really simple.

You only need to get people to watch till the end. Yep, that’s all.

Do you know what that means?

You have to keep your audience entertained so they want MORE of you.

 

However, your live talk doesn’t get the likes, shares and comments it deserves.

“Oh no, someone is leaving my FB live…” *sigh*

You wonder: Does my passionate talk not captivate my audience?

 

Watch the red flags.

I’ve collected the 9 most common FB live mistakes that bore the boots off their viewers.

Naturally you want to avoid those mistakes. Right?

So, simply turn them around to engage, charm and attract your dream clients.

 

1. You don’t tell your audience what this broadcast is about

It sounds obvious to tell people what you’re going to talk about. Yet I see many people start their FB lives without telling their audience what it is about.

Usually you’ve already spent a lot of time thinking about what you’ll be talking about so that you simply forget to share it.

Remember: Always share your topic with your audience BEFORE you start speaking.

 

2. You stop mid-sentence every few seconds to say “Hi” to whoever has just joined

You see that a lot. As many people are doing it, it must be good. Right? Wrong!

That totally interrupts the natural flow and hurts your listeners’ attention.

Additionally it bores those who showed up on time. It bores those who want to learn from you. It bores those that might be your dream clients.

Not good.

Conclusion: It is ok to say “Hi” to a few people in the first seconds. But then quickly share your message with those who are already watching.

 

3. You forgot to fix the microphone before going live

Guilty!

That happened to me once. Boy, what a disaster.

I simply assumed that my microphone is working. Because on this day I already had three Skype coaching calls with clients.

 

So why think about the microphone?

Seems switching from Skype to FB confused my computer. And I’ve heard from others that they had the same issue.

hmmm … lesson learned! Always check your microphone before the talk. You want people to hear you.  🙂

 

4. You stream directly from your bed just a few minutes after your woke and you look like a hairy monster

Don’t laugh! I’m serious.

This happens more often than one would think. But honestly, I have a hard time explaining why people would do that.

So, let’s keep it this way: Avoid this mistake by any means.

 

Until next time… Remember the world needs your voice ♥

 

 

Do you want my help?

My 8-week 1:1 Coaching Program is designed to help you show up confidently on Facebook Live and sell in a way that feels good. LEARN MORE…

Want Your Mind To Explode With Speaking Topics?

Want Your Mind To Explode With Speaking Topics?

Learn about the three C’s that will help you go from clueless to an infinite stream of ideas for Facebook live topics.

 

Well, it can be daunting to find topics for your FB live talks.

 

Because speaking to your viewers is one of the most terrifying situations you’ll experience.

Even though everybody seems to give a like talk these days, doesn’t mean they feel comfy and speak fearlessly.

 

As introverts and sensitive spirits we are looking for ways to show up for our future clients with a feeling of trust that everything will work out fine.

 

So, picturing yourself running out of words, not knowing what to say next and not feeling connected …

 

*puhhh*

Scary, right?

It really can feel terrifying. And that’s the exact opposite of feeling comfy. Feeling terrified makes it impossible to speak fearlessly.

 

The good news 

Topics are all around you. You just have to learn to recognize them.

BUT you have to move from a state of fear to a place where you feel comfy to end your struggle.

 

Now, let’s get started and dive into the 3 C’s that will change your world.

 

1# CLARITY

Get really clear about your message. What is it, that you can do best to help future clients reach their goals?

 

Clarity is always queen.

 

Without her your message is wobbly.

And with a wobbly message you have difficulties coming up with speaking topics.

 

2#CONNECTION

Now that you are really clear on your message you automatically start connecting with yourself.

This empowers you to connect with your audience in a way you’ve never done before.

 

Because connecting with yourself means you’re listening to your heart and you’re speaking from a place of true meaning.

This way you’re  open to your audience’s needs and as a result they will understand you on a deeper level.

 

3#COMFYNESS

Usually showing up and speaking on live seems scary and made you procrastinate giving live talks regularly.

 

But once you’ve got into the flow of connecting with yourself and your audience you’ll quickly realize that you’re feeling differently.

 

Something is changing for the better within yourself.

 

This is because by getting clear on your message and connecting from your heart you’ve begun to create a space which you can call your new comfort zone. Wooo Hooo!

 

Until next time… Remember the world needs your voice ♥

 

 

Do you want my help?

My 8-week 1:1 Coaching Program is designed to help you show up confidently on Facebook Live and sell in a way that feels good. LEARN MORE…

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